Wednesday, 27 July 2011

I love you with my MIND




This was how Natasha was left after Aryan walked out of her life- a pathetic self of her former beauty. This was how Jessica felt when her mother died. This was precisely how Varun felt when the only girl he loved cheated on him. And it’s pretty natural to feel this way, isn’t it? After all, in one way or another, Love had walked out. But this isn’t about Natasha, Jessica or Varun. This story could be yours, mine or of any other person you might be acquainted with.

Thinking about it, I noticed that at one point or the other, the Fates do dole out BLOWS that render you into an incomprehensible breathing mass. I guess times when you are at your lowest have occurred in everybody’s life, when we start thinking that we lost the Love of our life probably because we were unlucky or unworthy and just not good enough to be someone’s cynosure. It is at this point that we commence ceasing to savour the spices that life in it munificence offers us. It is here that we surrender ourselves to the winds of Oblivion, letting him drift us along from the valley of Isis into the underworld of Osiris. Thus, failing to SEE, HEAR, SMELL, TOUCH, TASTE, and FEEL. Its numbing yourself to the point where you begin a new DEAD Life- going through each day with a weight lodged in your throat- that still hurts your insides when you trip on the bumpy journey to that unknown land. That hurt- an indication that there's still a spark left inside, yet you continue with the abomination of a morose existence that makes you go on because it is going on till it jerks, halts and stops finally.

“Who will come to pick you up?”

“Are you so low so as to choose a lifetime of unhappiness because of one bad incident?”

Anyways, getting back to the point, out of curiosity I googled ‘Love’ and out of the many pointless love calculating sites (which Sheldon would have termed as “Hokum” for sure!!), the graphics and the e cards, I found that I didn’t have the patience or the inclination to look at the second page. So, I checked out what did Wikipedia have to say about Love and it defines it as,"An emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In Philosophical context, Love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion and affection."

True. For me, Love stands for all goodness and it can only abide in a mind that is devoid of all traces of Evil. It is a feeling you might have for anyone or anything and most importantly for your own being. God is good because God is Love. These verses from the First Epistle of St. Paul to the Corinthians 13:4-8 express simply the beauty and truth of this art of living.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”


“I may have all the knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have the faith needed to move mountains- but if I have no Love, I am nothing.”                                                                                 

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Now here is one expression which you must have heard.

“I Love you with my whole heart.”

People say it is the Heart which loves; it is the heart which feels the pain, it is the heart that gives and gives and waits in longing to be embraced for its immense capacity to always care.

I disagree.

I think it is the Mind- it is your Mind which loves and yearns to be loved in return. It is your Mind with its complete gamut of raw and naked emotions that makes us capable of loving another sans reins.

Naturally it made me think! How would it feel for someone to always sit in the background? To always take a naturally assumed sub-sequence just so another could bask in your glory as you sit by and watch the later claim all your credit. It has been a long while since we have been making our Brain- the centre of all our thoughts sit back and watch as we eulogize an organ with no thinking capacity.

Descartes was just stating an obviously simple truth when he said,

Je pense donc je suis.”

Translating it into the English language, it means,


Our being ALIVE becomes a reality when you can perceive it being ALIVE i.e., if you can just ‘think’. It is only when you can form thoughts that you will be able to take actions. We think of Mind as a highly powerful, logical and may I add Heartless aspect of our being and the heart, one softens just at the mention of this word. The heart is our ‘Illogical seat of Love’- the cupid with the hallmark of love kindling arrows going haywire and giving us simply lame excuses to say, “I was so much bedazzled in love that I didn't think.” The underlying implication here is, “If I would have thought before leaping like a blind bat then maybe I would have been saved from the heart break.”

And here, I am very specifically using the term “heartbreak” because when you act without thinking, then you should know that ‘You’ are the one to be blamed. Just as you can’t eat with your feet or see with your hands in the same way you can’t think with your heart. The function of our brain is to think and the function of our heart to pump blood. So remember,

“Makeshifts don’t last.”

Love is such a strong and powerful emotion, that it needs an equally strong substrate in which it can firmly dig its roots so as to grow and bloom into a beautiful tree. Love is NOT for the weak, for the coward, the hypocrites or the blind because such people do not accept it and hence are not able to see and experience the wonderful bliss it brings. Just as you will never be able to find what you’re looking for until you know what you’re looking for, in the same way Love comes to those who seek it.

Saying or writing “I Love you” has become an action so ordinary that these days we don’t even blink before speaking it aloud. I have always been a firm believer of this notion that words are magical and once spoken they carry within them the power to heal a hurt and vice-versa. Hence, better to be stringent with word supply than to say something harsh and choke somebody’s air supply.

Think before saying ‘I Love you’. Do you actually mean it? And if you have to say and you are sure, then say, 

“I LOVE YOU WITH MY MIND.”  Only then will you be contented and at peace.

Very important thing to be noted here is:

“Your feelings are your concern and no one else’s, so never force them upon anyone. You can only give to the universe but you can’t coerce to get what you expect.”

In the whole of the article, I haven’t written anything that you- my dear reader, didn't already know. For some people, it is obvious, for some it’s ambiguous. And then there is always a section of those busy people who don’t have the willingness to even clean up the layers of dust accumulated on the most prized possession they have.  Excluding the exceptions, the irony here is, these are the people who are the most successful socially and yet the ones who read books as “How to get your peace of mind.”  Reading a book won’t get your peace of mind and money can’t buy it for you. So look into yourself because it is only when you will go to the attic of your mind that you will be able to unravel the Beauty that lies inside.

My Tip of the Day

Do yourself a favour and take out time just for your own self and then quietly listen to voice of silence telling you what you have always known sub consciously. Make that knowledge a part of your today.
I will now wrap this up with Eckhart Tolle:

“When you lose touch with your inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.”